Do you ever notice how you’re always in the middle of something?
If we act from a calm and clear internal state, we are much more likely to act skillfully and in ways that don't produce unintended consequences.
In order to uncover the authentic self and to sustain aim, we need to see through the false self and its “many I’s”.
As I close the year, and the chapter of my life without children, it seems appropriate to revisit these vows and deepen my commitment to them. I hope that you find something in them that is useful for you and your path.
Most of us can think of at least one person who we love, but whose presence frequently causes us pain or difficulty. How can we work with this?
Thoughts on the tension between hope and practicality
Here's a poem I wrote a few years ago. It is a sort of antidote for when I'm feeling stuck and knotted up, and imagine that I must control my life and its outcomes.
We all have some relationship with toxicity.
Inquiring into right relationship can serve as a barometer for where we need to direct energy and attention in our lives in order to realize greater harmony and balance.
The power of dialectical thinking is that we learn to bring two “true but partial” perspectives into dialogue and it results in a richer, more complex sense of reality.
"When, consciously or unconsciously, we use something to escape from ourselves, we become addicted to it."
Here's a piece on cultivating greater wakefulness in life.
We’re trading in one of the most meaningful parts of our humanity–the capacity to create–for fleeting stimulation and entertainment that typically leaves us feeling unsatisfied.
A sketch of the progression from naive, to cynical, to post-cynical as orientations to reality.
Most of us live inside cultures that mistake appearing and having for being, which is the root of a lot of misery.
More thoughts on discernment and care.
How many generations of men and women have tilted their heads back and gazed in awe at the vastness and mystery of the night sky?
Setbacks and limitations are an inescapable feature of being human.
Thoughts on discernment and care. Plus some resources.
A manifesto for deep thinkers.
"All things are not shining, but all the shining things are."
While traveling through India, it occurred to me how many people have suffered or died to teach us what we know today.
The process of narrative creation, by which we situate ourselves in time and define various anchor events, is a kind of magical power.
Ambivalence is a useful experience to get to know more intimately.
Learning to transform the subtle ways we resist what is unfolding around us frees up a tremendous amount of personal energy.
Considerations on living well, shared ~monthly