Go Slow to Go Fast If we act from a calm and clear internal state, we are much more likely to act skillfully and in ways that don't produce unintended consequences.
Many I's and Aim In order to uncover the authentic self and to sustain aim, we need to see through the false self and its “many I’s”.
Marriage Vows As I close the year, and the chapter of my life without children, it seems appropriate to revisit these vows and deepen my commitment to them. I hope that you find something in them that is useful for you and your path.
Better Relationships with Difficult Loved Ones Most of us can think of at least one person who we love, but whose presence frequently causes us pain or difficulty. How can we work with this?
Mother's Kiss Here's a poem I wrote a few years ago. It is a sort of antidote for when I'm feeling stuck and knotted up, and imagine that I must control my life and its outcomes.
Right Relationship Inquiring into right relationship can serve as a barometer for where we need to direct energy and attention in our lives in order to realize greater harmony and balance.
Cylinders Everywhere The power of dialectical thinking is that we learn to bring two “true but partial” perspectives into dialogue and it results in a richer, more complex sense of reality.
Escaping Ourselves "When, consciously or unconsciously, we use something to escape from ourselves, we become addicted to it."
Media Fasting We’re trading in one of the most meaningful parts of our humanity–the capacity to create–for fleeting stimulation and entertainment that typically leaves us feeling unsatisfied.
Post-cynical A sketch of the progression from naive, to cynical, to post-cynical as orientations to reality.
Appearing, Having, Being Most of us live inside cultures that mistake appearing and having for being, which is the root of a lot of misery.
The Night Sky How many generations of men and women have tilted their heads back and gazed in awe at the vastness and mystery of the night sky?
Indebtedness While traveling through India, it occurred to me how many people have suffered or died to teach us what we know today.
Being in Time The process of narrative creation, by which we situate ourselves in time and define various anchor events, is a kind of magical power.
Transform Bad Circumstances Into The Path Learning to transform the subtle ways we resist what is unfolding around us frees up a tremendous amount of personal energy.